Wednesday, July 12, 2017

IT'S TIME TO LET SOME THINGS AND PEOPLE GO

Dream #1

I was walking through a grocery store with my 2 year-old daughter. As we were walking and holding hands, all of a sudden I felt a lump in my throat and could barely breathe. I stopped in the middle of the grocery store, and was able to take a deep enough breath to get air in my body. I then proceeded to walk with my daughter, breathing normal, and I felt the lump in my throat again, but this time I couldn't breathe at all. I remember letting go of my daughter's hand to grab my throat, then I woke up.

As I woke up, I realized it was hard to breathe (in real life). My daughter (my kid is 26 lb) was laying on top of me, with her head on my neck. I picked her up and laid her in between my husband and I, and immediately the pressure I felt in my chest and neck in the dream, and when I first woke up went away.

Feeling Pressure? I don't care who or what it is (even if it's the closest person to you), MOVE them or REMOVE yourself. Do not wait until they do something else to hurt you, and do not wait until THEY decide to remove themselves from your life. YOU know exactly what you're feeling. After all, it's you that is suffocating.

Praying for you! 


Dream #2

I was in the passenger seat of my friend's car, as we pulled up to my house in my hometown. My friend's sister was in the back seat and my friend was driving. It was dark outside, but the porch lights from my grandparents' house and my mom's house illuminated the yard a good bit (yep, I lived right beside my grandparents growing up).

As I was reaching to grab my purse and bags, my friend (the driver) says "aw," opens her door, then reaches her hand out. I look up, and a huge dog was walking up to her, and when it laid it's head on her leg, I realized it was a huge pit bull. I screamed, "that's a pit bull!!" As quickly as I could say "that's a pit bull," as she was rubbing its' head, the dog opened its' mouth and had her knee locked in its' jaws.

I immediately got out of the car and ran into my grandparents house (not far-like 7 steps from my friend's car), because I knew there would be a set of golf clubs somewhere very close to the front door (my granddaddy plays golf in real life). I screamed and cried as I grabbed 3 golf clubs that were right at the door of my grandparents house and I ran straight to my friend's side of the car, and hit the dog on the top of it's head with all three golf clubs, as hard as I could, and it immediately let her leg go and ran off.

I gave a golf club to my friend and her sister, and then my exact words in the dream were, "It's coming back!" My friend was still in the car, but her sister and I were standing outside of the car, bracing ourselves with the golf clubs, as we saw the pit bull charging us.

I woke up as I was slinging the golf club with all my might towards the dog.

Sis, you've gotten too comfortable with a dangerous being around you. This is your warning. Stop pacifying bad situations with an "aw" and CALL IT OUT for what it is. You know what can happen when playing with "IT," but because it hasn't hurt you YET, you are pacifying the situation. It's literally only seconds away from trying to steal God's purpose from you!

PLEASE...
Call things out for what they are.
Do what the Holy Spirit is instructing you to do.
Now have faith that God got you, and TAKE ACTION!

Deuteronomy 31:6


I'm praying for every soul that reads this post! I love you, and know that it's time NOW to let some things (eating habits, foul mouth, gossiping, pettiness, and bad habits) and people (family members, friends, and acquaintances who serve you no good) GO.

And remember this sis, when you let go/remove yourself, and take GODLY action...you won't be losing (even though it may feel like it). God is going to give you everything you need, as you trust him (and give you more-check God's track record in the book of Job).

TRUST GOD SIS! I'M ROOTING FOR YOU! 

-Brittany Bradley 


Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Unplanned Trials of Life: The Story Behind The Photo

One Saturday morning, I posted a photo that my husband took of me from our date night. Now, I have decided to share the story behind that photo. 


Monday of that week was the start of Spring Break in graduate school for me. After working all day, I finally had a week where I could go straight home and spend time with my husband and 2 year-old baby girl. No class, late night studying, assignments to turn in, or chapters to read that week. I had simply planned for the family to cook, catch up on tv shows, hang out with friends we hadn't seen in a while, and go to the park together that week. Oh, how excited I was when I got home on Monday evening! I immediately went upstairs and put on my husband's t-shirt and sweatpants, and ran downstairs in excitement about the homemade pizza and lasagna we were about to make. My husband was in charge of the pizza, and I was making the lasagna. 

Long story short, we ended up at MedHelp that evening, and I left there with 7 stitches in my thumb, and a tetanus shot in my left arm from cutting my thumb on a can of tomato sauce. We stopped at McDonalds for dinner, and said, "oh well" to the blood on the kitchen floor, and unfinished pizza and lasagna that was left on the counter tops, until the next day. 

Not the plan.

I went to work on Tuesday, thumb very sore from the stitches, but still excited about a week off from classes, and being able to go home immediately after work to spend time with my family. Sitting on the couch Tuesday evening with my family, I told my husband that it hurt to swallow and my right ear was hurting as well. I saw white spots on the back of my throat, and by 11 PM tears were falling from the pain I felt trying to swallow. I kept telling myself, "just wait until 8 AM to get back to MedHelp!" 

Wednesday morning, my Strep test came back positive. After a steroid shot and getting antibiotics from a local pharmacy I went home for the day because for 24 hrs, I was considered contagious. I ended up not going to work for the rest of the week, because even when the pain went away, my body was too fatigued to do anything. 

Not the plan.

Friday, my husband told me he had a surprise planned for me. After taking a shower, I walked downstairs and there was a makeup artist in our guest room/office space. JB arranged a makeup session for me to get all glammed up, and one of my best friends arrived to pick up JoJo (our 2 year-old). My husband even bought a little black dress for me to wear. He planned a date night to get me out of the house and for us to spend quality time together. It was such a perfect evening.

Finally, I was healed, and experiencing the "light at the end of the tunnel."

Listen...

Friends, are things not going as planned in your life right now? Are you finding yourself saying more times than not, "this just wasn't the plan!" 

HOLD ON! There is something so beautiful on the other side of every mistake, pain, disappointment, and moments of confusion in your life right now. 

Nope, it doesn't feel good to have to go through the unplanned ups and downs of life, but it's something so beautiful when you HOLD ON, AND KEEP PUTTING ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER...even when things don't feel or look good!

That week I learned that pain doesn't last always, rest is necessary, and Jesus is constantly interceding on my behalf.

I believe that God is more concerned with how you get through life trials (unplanned moments in life), and not necessarily concerned about the trial itself that you are experiencing. 

STAY FAITHFUL TO GOD DURING EACH TRIAL YOU GO THROUGH! 

God got you, and Jesus is interceding on your behalf for EVERY SINGLE THING you go through in life. 

I'm grateful for the beautiful picture (I didn't look like what I had been through that week), but I'm more grateful for the trials that anchored my faith that week. 

HOLD ON AND FAITHFULLY WALK THROUGH THIS TOUGH SEASON! 

Trial- a test of the performance, qualities, or suitability of someone or something.
Regardless of how you feel right now, you're built to pass this test and get through this trial. You will see the light at the end of the tunnel! 


GOD GOT YOU, I PROMISE!!..and I'm praying for you! 

Brittany Bradley


*Special thanks to Shonte Baltes at Bon Mercy Beauty Bar who is located in Tuscaloosa and Huntsville for doing my makeup. Your energy, your faith, and your presence made my day!! You're such an amazing woman Shonte! You did an amazing job on my makeup!! This momma felt like a star because of you!

*Thanks to my friend LeKeshia Thomas for my jewelry in the photo!

*Thanks to our friends Chris and Quachetta Jones for always being there for the Bradley's! We appreciate you guys! Looking for an encouraging word and great recipes, check out my friend's website Faithfully Anchored!

*And lastly, thanks to my husband for being super man that week, and every week taking good care of your wife and daughter! I appreciate you getting me to the doctor, and praying for me in the parking lot of MedHelp as I cried from just being disappointed in what all had happened that week. And again, thank you for such a beautiful date night, and all the effort you put into putting a smile on my face that whole day! Literally, a day I will never forget papa!

                                     
**My family at JoJo's first dance recital! Love them sooooo much!!**

Sunday, January 22, 2017

The Day My Daughter Ran In Front of A Moving Vehicle

I never thought I'd see the day that I desperately ran behind my two year old screaming as a car approached her little body going approximately 20-30 MPH.

"How did this happen?" I'm sure you're wondering. 

I was in the church parking lot, leaning into our family car placing my purse, my daughter's bag, and her snacks, and juice cup in the car. My daughter was standing on the ground between my legs and the car and I suddenly felt my daughter move. I looked up from out of the car, to see my two year old running FULL speed in the middle of the church parking lot. I TOOK off running behind her screaming "MAKENNA!! MAKENNA!!" as I saw a car approaching going at least 20 MPH through the parking lot without breaking their speed. My daughter ran full speed towards the front of the moving vehicle, then cut her little ankles and body to the right, barely missing the car as she continued full circle until she ran into her father's arms, who was on the driver's side of our car. My daughter's life flashed before my eyes, and I WASN'T ABLE TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT! The car continued going, because they truly did not see her. 

My husband yelled, "what happened?!" and I couldn't talk. I grabbed our daughter from his arms, held her, then put her in her car seat without saying a word. I then sat in the front passenger seat and LOST IT. At that moment, I realized how my life could have changed in just those split seconds. My husband held me as I screamed, "I JUST COULD NOT CATCH HER!" 

"Brittany, it was a mistake baby, and she's okay," my husband kept saying to console me. I felt lifeless as I laid in his arms, crying hysterically in our car. At this point our daughter began crying. My husband at this point was now consoling our two year old telling her, "Momma is okay," and consoling me at the same time saying, "Everything is okay. She is safe now." 

I'm 5'10.5, 140 lbs, slim framed, and an athletic built female. "How could I not catch her?" I thought to myself. My body shook the whole 20 minutes of our ride home from church. My husband tried to make everything light by making jokes, starting random conversations, and he even apologized for questioning what happened and continued saying, "mistakes happen baby." 

My thoughts shifted from, "I almost let my baby get seriously hurt or killed, and we should be sitting in Children's Hospital right now" to "why did you just show my family so much grace and mercy Jesus?" 

I then began to think of how often in life we are given an assignment from the Lord, and don't look after it properly because we're preoccupied doing something else, or....just trying to make ends meet. 

We say:
  • I can't go to school right now because I have all these bills to pay, a job to go to, and children to look after. 
  • I can't start my own business, because who will support me? Nobody around here has money. 
  • I'm not applying for other jobs. You know you don't need to be at your current job any longer, but you're comfortable there so you just...stay. 
  • I'm not relocating to pursue my dreams, because how will I afford this and that? Not to mention that my support system is where I'm currently at.
  • I know I need to eat healthier (per doctor's orders to save your own life), but you insist that you just can't afford healthy food, being consistent with meal planning, and a gym membership right now.
  • I know I don't need to be in a relationship with this person, but I can't afford to pay rent by myself right now, or I can't stand being lonely so I'll just put up with this dysfunctional relationship. 
  • And lastly, I can't step out on faith right now and present to the world what God has shown me, because people will think it's not possible, or that I'm too old to fulfill my dreams. 

How often do we shift our minds off of our assignments (goals and revelations from God), to take care of our temporary, everyday to-do list? Then, find ourselves RUNNING, CRYING, SHOCKED, AND OVERWHELMED as we try to make sense of what is happening in our lives because we didn't focus on the assignment he has entrusted us with.

I'm writing you to let you know that the grace my family received today, is the same grace that the Lord is extending to you. Your assignment is no longer out of your reach. It's safe back with you. 

So I ask, "what are you going to do with it?" Whatever your "it" is! 

It's going to cost YOU AND OTHERS if you don't properly look after your assignment(s) the Lord has entrusted you with. PLEASE (with tears in my eyes), keep your eyes on your assignment(s). FOCUS on what's MOST important starting TODAY!

Yes, you may have made bad decisions and have to live with the consequences of those decisions, or haven't followed through with things most important to you, but I'm here to say that God has placed your assignment(s) back in your care. TAKE CARE OF IT NOW. Whatever your "it" is, grab it, work on it, focus on it at all times, and never let IT go!

As you focus on the very things God has placed on your heart, he will provide provision to carry it out.

As I sit in our home office typing this blog, my daughter keeps running in and out of the room dropping dry honey nut cheerios on the floor, talking, laughing, and climbing on furniture. But just a few hours ago, this opportunity to see her laughing and playing was almost taken from me. 


(Picture from Makenna's 2nd Birthday party!) 



Makenna, I love you and momma can't promise that I'll never make another mistake, but thank you for reminding me that you are one of my most treasured assignments the Lord has given me and to always focus on you. I'm beyond grateful for your little life Makenna Jo!

I'm rooting for every single person who comes across this blog post! I pray that you come to know what your assignment is. I pray you cherish that assignment and never stop working on it, and that as you pursue the very thing God has placed on your heart, that the Lord keeps you and "it" safe from life's distractions. 

Brittany Bradley 

Sunday, July 10, 2016

Purity: A Call To Action Beyond Sexual References

Most times when we think about purity we think of sexual purity. Not having sex until married. Purity being a call from God to save yourself until married. This type of purity requiring a conscious decision to not put yourself in tempting situations, or when in those tempting situations being strong enough to say "I trust God, and his plan is way better than my plans or feelings in this moment in Jesus name"...then doing what God has instructed you to do. 

I support sexual purity, and God's way of doing things whole heartedly. However, today, I'm sharing this post to encourage you to be pure in EVERY area of your life. I have been challenged by God to live pure as a woman of God. This has been resonating for weeks in my spirit.

Here are some areas God is calling us to be pure...

Our Thoughts
Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent and praiseworthy-think about such things."

Become aware of what you are thinking at all times. Monitor your thoughts. You may think this is easy or that you already do this, but I challenge you to know your every thought, and redirect it to what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy. I've had to redirect thoughts of, "I just don't like her" to "Lord, help me to see her as you see her." When you monitor your thoughts, you will realize how OFTEN our minds aren't on things that are pure and too often on things that are displeasing to God.

Our Words
Psalms 19:14 "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, Oh Lord, my rock and my redeemer." 

How often have you had conversations with people and automatically thought, "dang, I said too much." Or you're in the middle of a juicy gossip talk and you begin to feel convicted because you know that if this person is telling you all of someone else's business OR all of their own business, they are surely telling yours to someone else. It is EASY to get caught up in un-pure conversations via text or in person that aren't pleasing to the Lord. Some believe they are just sharing helpful information, but it's gossiping...it's gossiping people! Also, become very sensitive to what you speak over your life and health. Saying in times of despair, "I just can't do this anymore" could yield life changing repercussions. Satan wants you to think it's okay to say certain phrases we've heard all our lives, just to hinder our future. 

Our Decisions
Proverbs 3:6 "Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take."

Our daily decisions and our goals tell alot about how pure we really are. Why do we do what we do? Why do we work where we work? Why do we date the people we date? Why did you pick out that house you're currently living in? Why do we eat what we eat? Why do we watch certain television shows? Why do we listen to certain types of music? Why are we okay with spending our money on certain things? Why do we vacation in certain places? Why do we post certain pictures/videos on social media? You get my point, right? ARE THE DECISIONS WE MAKE ON A DAILY BASIS PURE AND PLEASING TO GOD? We have to evaluate our purpose for the decisions we are making. Your FUTURE is connected to what you do NOW. Be intentional and purposeful about the decisions you make, the shows you watch, the people in your life, and the food you eat...just to name a few. Don't waste your life away now, thinking the future will somehow be better. Take action now, and let your decisions come from a pure place, and oh how bright your future will be! 

Lastly... Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

I think about a time recently that my husband and I were watching a good movie and our daughter was playing with toys in the living room. I became so sensitive to what was being said on the movie, and what they were doing in the movie due to my daughter being around that I asked my husband to turn it off. I had this overwhelming conviction that I am responsible for what my daughter is exposed to, and making sure that what she see, hear, and actions around her are pure. I believe this is how God feels about us. He knows how sensitive our earthly vessel is. We are as vulnerable as children, and we truly soak up what's in our environment. God wants us to guard ourselves, because what we overly expose ourselves to, becomes our reality...the good and the bad. 

I pray you see that purity is relevant outside of sexual references and that purity is a call to action from God right now!

Matthew 5:8 

Love Always,

Brittany Bradley 

Sunday, June 26, 2016

What's Stopping You?

"Welcome to the (graduate school name) Counselor Education Program."-Email

"Wait, what?...WOW!"-Me *Proceeds to read email four more times...

"I GOT IN BABY!!!!!!!!" -My Text To My Husband

"Funny part is, you could have gotten in anywhere. And I knew that you could. lol. Not sure why you doubted yourself." -Text From Husband


May of 2016,  I had an overwhelming feeling to apply to school immediately. So I hopped on my computer, looked at deadlines from two different schools that I was interested in and the deadline for my first school of choice was June 1, 2016. I had TWO weeks to get my application completed, send transcripts, send GRE scores, get 3 recommendation letters, and write a personal essay.

As I began to apply to my school of choice, I realized I already had an UNFINISHED application with the school dating back to May of 2013. Three years ago, I attempted to apply to graduate school, BUT DID NOT FINISH the application. "Why?" you may ask. Because I doubted myself and fear of the unknown (what will school be like being married, working a full-time job, and knowing my GRE scores wasn't that good) hindered me from moving forward.

APPLICATION COMPLETED, May 31, 2016 at 5:57 PM. At this point, I had charged all fees to my credit cards to apply to school: the $45 fee to submit my application to the school, the $27 to send my GRE scores, and the $16 to send my transcript from undergraduate school. See, money was an issue. It wasn't CONVENIENT at the time to take that amount of money out of our bank account.

The three amazing people I asked to write my recommendation letters that I look up to, so willingly completed the recommendations and sent them in before the deadline. My dear friend who previously helped me update my resume, so willingly read over my personal essay. It was like everyone was in my corner, truly supporting my decision to go back to school in a strict timeframe.

Sidebar: During the two weeks I was applying to school, I never told my husband or mother. Why? Because those two very supportive people have heard me say for YEARS that I was going to go back to school. I was so tired of TALKING, that I was ready to PROVE what I really wanted out of life.

Fast forward to June 17, 2016 the day I interviewed for the counseling program at my school of choice. I wore business-casual attire that I was comfortable in, and that best represented myself. I stepped out of my car with my black wedges on, and said, "Okay, Jesus. Lets do this!" I wasn't nervous at all. See at this point, God wanted me to be there. My GRE scores didn't match the school's requirement and the school couldn't locate my official GRE scores that were sent on May 20, 2016. GOD'S MERCY AND FAVOR!

So, literally three days before my 26th birthday, I received an email stating I've been accepted into graduate school to begin a journey in an area that I'm extremely passionate about, counseling.


(The selfie I took after I interviewed for grad school! GOD IS SO FAITHFUL!!)


WHAT'S STOPING YOU FROM FULFILLING THE THINGS GOD HAS PLACED ON YOUR HEART? Do you have a desire to relocate, travel, start your own business, or go back to school? What's stopping you?


IS IT FEAR?
God isn't the author of fear. If you are considering doing a good thing, but KEEP talking yourself out of it, that isn't of God. I had convinced myself for five years that my GRE scores weren't good enough, and I was going to wait until I had the money to take the test over again. Well, I used that same score from five years ago and was accepted into school. Satan is the author of fear. He places in you that you aren't perfect or capable of fulfilling the desires that are in your heart. HE IS A LIAR! Don't let satan win in your life by postponing your dreams. THERE IS A YES WAITING FOR YOU!

2 Timothy 1:7 "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind." (NIV)


IS IT FINANCES?
As of today, I don't know how I'm paying for graduate school. Just being honest. God is Alpha and Omega, knowing the beginning and the end. I TRUST GOD. I pray that the fear of how you will pay for that desire in your heart, doesn't trump your obedience to the Lord. Most likely, the thing you are believing God for is BIGGER THAN YOUR BANK ACCOUNT ANYWAYS! THERE IS PROVISION WAITING FOR YOU!

Philippians 4:19 "And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus." (NLT)


IS IT YOUR FAITH?
My Pastor said, "Your faith is in something at all times." Most times our faith is on the negative. How something won't work. How you can't do it. How the timing isn't "right." So I'm encouraging you to be intentional with your faith. Put your faith on how well it will work, how you can do "it," and that the right time is NOW! You're believing in something anyways, might as well believe the good! GOD TAKES CARE OF AND IS PLEASED WITH THOSE WHO HAVE CRAZY FAITH!

Hebrews 11:6 "And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him." 


Don't let fear, finances, or your wavering faith keep you from the promises of God. You have a YES waiting for you on the other side of your obedience! Let your children, bills, or even death in the family be the reason for doing what God has told you instead of those things being the reason you haven't gone after every goal in your life. I'm a wife, mother, full-time employee, and have additional obstacles...BUT GOD STILL HAS A PLAN TO COMPLETE THE WORK HE STARTED IN ME AND HE HAS EQUIPPED ME WITH EVERYTHING I NEED! 
I'm moving forward, and I pray you do the same. 
 Matthew 6:25-34

I BELIEVE IN YOU AND GOD GOT YOU,

Brittany Bradley




Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Our Story: Young & Married

June 11, 2016 - Our 5th wedding anniversary! 


For those of you who do not know JB and I, we grew up in the same town. We didn't know each other until high school and started dating April 9, 2006 (the day after JB's senior prom)! We attended the same college, and on January 1, 2011 (last semester of undergraduate school) JB took me to the YMCA field in our hometown and proposed with a beautiful heart shaped diamond ring. We decided that night after our engagement party, we would get married in just 5 short months. We got our degrees in May of 2011 and were married on June 11, 2011. I was 20 and JB was 23. All I knew was that I loved him, and I wanted my wedding to be on the beach. We had internships to go back to after our beautiful wedding in Orange Beach, AL, and our honeymoon in the Bahamas. Internships, ya'll. Summer internships at that. We had all these dreams and plans of moving to Atlanta, GA, but didn't have jobs or potential jobs, and our lease was ending at our apartment complex. I think we were jobless for two weeks before we both landed secure jobs. From years 1-4 of marriage, we went through many transitions. We have gone from a studio apartment, to a one bedroom apartment, to a townhouse that we currently own. We have gone from two functioning cars, to both of them acting stupid-thousands of dollars spent on repairs, having to get rid of one car, buy a new car, just to have the other car we have not work. Financially, we have seen overflow and favor, to dry and weary, to we doing alright. And then the Lord decided to BLESS us after 3.5 yrs of marriage with a beautiful baby girl; Makenna Jo!

(Makenna Jo with her favorite stuffed animal at daycare. She's 17 months old!)

What I failed to mention in our story above is how we almost quit on each other during year 2 of marriage and that I suffered with depression during that time. And to be perfectly honest, physical intimacy was non-existent and our emotional and spiritual connections suffered. I'm not sure that you could call this thing we were doing in life together, marriage. And lets not talk about credit card debt, student loans, different bank accounts and the "my money" issues we had!

I had gotten so disgusted being married that I hated to even look at my husband. My hair was falling out (seriously, alopecia ya'll),  and I was having anxiety attacks probably twice a day at one point. Then one day, I just left.  I met two friends of mine at the beach to "get away." Well that didn't work so well because I couldn't mask the pain I was feeling. At this point in my life, even my family members were noticing how unhappy I was.

My mom sat me down and talked with me like any good mother would, and in the middle of our conversation and me crying, I heard God say, "I didn't tell you to leave your marriage."- God
"Wait, what? I'm miserable, clearly he's not the person for me." -Me
"No Brittany, get your stuff and go to your husband. I did not tell you to leave your marriage. Go home." -God

Ya'll, I could have punched Jesus at that moment. I was livid that God wanted me to be miserable. Little did I know, I was fighting the one thing in my life that was solid; our COVENANT I made between God and my husband. I was fighting a PROMISE that everything would be alright, and I was fighting AGAINST the very thing I should have been fighting FOR.


We were comfortable during year 4 of marriage with good jobs,  a nice home, an amazing baby, amazing support, then the Lord decided to make us uncomfortable as he began to share his will for us. Our good isn't good enough for the Lord. God is challenging us in our finances, our prayer life together, our health, businesses, and simply moving forward in any area of our lives that we are stagnant. So cheers to this new phase we have entered into during our 5th year of marriage. The year of pursuing EVERY thought the Lord places on our heart. Not asking any questions, or delaying our obedience as we both pursue the will of God for our lives individually and as a team! 

I would like to share 5 life changing lessons I have learned from being married 5 years.

1) DEAL WITH YOU! I had some issues that I assumed were my husband's fault. The Lord had to show me that I was unhappy, because I was choosing to be unhappy. God showed me that my husband wasn't responsible for my unhappiness. You must deal with YOUR demons (ex. anger, self-consciousness, depression, addiction, father and purity issues)...or they will show up in your marriage and it usually manifest in unrealistic expectations you place on your spouse. Your spouse is not responsible for your insecurities! FIGHT YOUR DEMONS, OR YOUR DEMONS WILL FIGHT AND DESTROY YOUR MARRIAGE.

2) GOD RESTORES. News Flash: Trouble and pain does NOT last always! Yep, ya'll may not like each other right now, and I know all too well what that feels and looks like BUT the storm will calm, the winds will become a breeze, and the rain will eventually cease. If you close your eyes in the middle of the storm and quit, you will never see the rainbow and the promises of God. STAY THE COURSE AND WAIT FOR RESTORATION.

3) IT'S NEVER ABOUT "WHAT" YOU ARE GOING THROUGH, BUT HOW YOU GO THROUGH YOUR TOUGH TIMES. You can either be nice, or mean. You can choose to be hateful, or helpful. You can choose to pray and intercede for your spouse, or bash and disrespect them. You can choose to communicate, or continue to make assumptions about each other. I'm going to leave you with this: You are one in your marriage, so what you do to your spouse, you are doing to yourself. You are as good to yourself as you treat your spouse. Do good to each other no matter what ya'll are going through.

4) STOP TRYING TO FIX YOUR MATE. I remember being so mad at JB one time and the Lord told me not to say anything to him and to pray. I felt like I needed to tell JB about himself, but I didn't. I casted every care I had about the situation on God and was very open with God how it hurt me what JB had done/said. I kid ya'll not, that night JB came into the room and apologized for EVERY detail of my prayer that I said to God. Ya'll can not tell me that wasn't Jesus. God can do more with a truly repentant heart, than you can with your complaining. LET GOD CHANGE YOUR SPOUSE. PRAY FOR THEM.

5) GOD'S PLAN THROUGH YOUR MARRIAGE IS TO MAKE YOU BETTER. This is not about your spouse. This is about you; your mouth, your actions, and how you handle disappointments, and your character development. Cheers to growing. Pass the many test of marriage, so that you become a better person! Every issue is working for YOUR good! (Romans 8:28)

BONUS: NEVER IDOLIZE OTHERS' MARRIAGES. This fairytale life between a man and woman who are married, is non-existent. Marriage has both its highs and lows, and the moment you begin to compare your marriage to someone else's marriage, you will become miserable. You will begin to think only you two have certain issues. No, every marriage have their issues. PEOPLE JUST DON'T POST THEIR ISSUES! They post fun, family, and vacation pictures...which they are suppose to do. Just because JB and I don't post an argument on social media, doesn't mean we don't have them. Fix your eyes back on your marriage and make it what you want it to be.


(Hiking with the hubby two weekends ago!)

Happy Anniversary Baby! I truly appreciate you never leaving my side as we went through so many transitions being young and married. Sometimes you were silent, but ALWAYS there. Thank you! And now, cheers to being intentional with quality time, tackling challenges together, going on adventures, and pressing towards every promise God has for our marriage in year 5!

I love you forever!

Mrs. Bradley 

Sunday, June 5, 2016

The Turtle: Your Assignment From God


Today while walking at a park near a busy highway, I saw a man slow his truck down, turn around in the median, then get out of his truck. I observed him looking at the ground.  I soon found out he was watching a turtle cross the street. The man got something off the back of his truck to help assist the turtle cross the road. Well, the man only got the turtle to the median then drove off. About 30 minutes later, cars were slowing down and I noticed a couple get out of their car and was looking at the turtle who was trying to cross the street again in the direction of the pond at the park. At this point the turtle was in the middle of the street and cars were swiftly passing the turtle on both sides. Cars continued to slow down as the couple got the turtle across the street to the grass by the pond. The turtle went into the pond as the couple walked back to their car.

An "AHA" moment happened as I reflected on this interaction between the turtle and the people who assisted the turtle. Three things resonated in my heart:

1) MOVE. We have a destiny to get to and many assignments to fulfill. Sitting still looking at how "dangerous" or "impossible" it will be to get where you need to go will never get you to the places God has planned for you. MOVING was key to the turtle making it to its' destination.

2) GOD PROVIDES PROVISION. Nope, don't look for a handout. What I'm sharing here is that when others see the manifestation of what God called you to do, the right people or things will enter your life to help you fulfill the ultimate goal. Also note, the provisions will be unexpected, but there when you truly need them. The turtle in this case had help twice. The first person only had enough resources to get the turtle to a certain point. It took another "ram in the bush" to help get the turtle to where he actually needed to be. **Sidebar: Don't get mad when who you expected to "help" you doesn't come all the way through for you. God will send who and what you need with the right resources to fulfill the ultimate goal.**

3) GOD'S PROTECTION IS REAL. It's going to cost you something to get out there and do what God has called you to do. Fear will seem real and debilitating. Hard times will come. And failure will seem more real at times than God's promises; making you doubt if you heard God right. Well, let me tell you. God is blocking people, places, things, and demons from hindering you from fulfilling the calling he has on your life. Continue to move forward knowing God is protecting and fighting for you.

Consider This: The Lord is rooting for you! The Lord has placed a desire in your heart knowing that he has it all figured out and knowing that you are capable of getting the task done. (Jeremiah 29:11) Let the Lord use you. Whatever has been tugging at your heart, do it and don't look back! When you move in the direction God has called you to, he will provide provision and protection and ultimately God will get the glory and your life will be forever changed!

I stepped out on faith two weeks ago and did something God placed on my heart to do for years, and I can't wait to share it with you all later! My heart is bursting with excitement as I anticipate his protection and provision as I fulfill the calling he has on my life. I'm moving and I'm rooting for you as you take a step to move in the direction God has called you!

Love,

Brittany Bradley